Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…

Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…

… if you are willing to look at see what is so about you and your life.

The truth. Naked. Ugly. Often shameful.

Here is a correspondence I had with a client today:

She said: “I’m interested in changing my context since it’s part of what keeps me stuck.”

“… answering the questions: what am I doing? Why am I doing it?

Unless you have done the work of identifying what you have been doing, and why you have been doing it, no way you can shift the context. You cannot catch what you can’t see. And you cannot change what you can’t catch.”
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Make your plane go where you want it to go…

Make your plane go where you want it to go…

This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.

I literally don’t know anyone who lives that way.

People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that… while their plane crashes in every area.

So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip?
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Equality, racist, collusion, big words you throw around

Yesterday I used the free community van to get to two stores I cannot get to easily on my own.
Note: in the illustrations I am not taking sides. I am illustrating that there is confusion and disagreement in what is race, what is racist, what is racism, and what it does is it makes people rigid, lie about what they think, and vote for Trump… ugh.
The driver of the van, PhD in sociology, asked if it bothered me if he continued to listen to NPR radio ((National Public Radio)) . It was a public debate in Trump and if he was a racist.

I listened for at least half an hour, and observed that no one bothered to define what they meant by racist. Or what is racism. So the discussion was as if blind people were discussing the color of something… lots of talk. Lots of passion. Very little substance.
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How to start preparing your brain to build a latticework to hang new knowledge on?

I woke up with a question: how do you build a latticework to hang all your knowledge on?

I have built a latticework, but I did not do it consciously. I just noticed that I had it and others didn’t.

As usual I wrote down the question before i went to sleep last night, but the answer wasn’t there this morning. Only the question. Urgently.

So I came to my computer, and the first link I clicked took me to an answer. Maybe THE answer. No accidents there… I clicked on a link on a website I normally don’t click on anything.
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How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see?

How do you model after a successful person? ((or in the case of Babe the pig, learn to become a sheepdog… A sheepdog can talk to the sheep and the sheep obeys… but how do you learn that?!)) Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see? It’s about modeling to grow, modeling to become all you can be. ((One of the most significant things that happened to me in my life is this: My mother shared with me that my oldest niece was misbehaving. My mother told her that if she continues she’d become like me. And my niece, Eszter said: oh, that would be good. I want to become like her.

That was my first experience of being approved of by someone who was a relative. Being chosen as a role model is the biggest acknowledgment a person can have. Imitation is the sincerest flattery.

My niece didn’t know how to model, she had no contact with me… So she chose, in the end, to be ordinary. She died a few years ago. She left two lovely daughters, a husband, and my brother who is now the “mother” to those girls… Her death made a difference. It completely made my brother accessible, almost human. And for that I am very grateful. I love my brother. I loved him even when he just growled at me for 60 years. Now we talk, share ideas, maybe even a few laughs. I am weeping as I am writing this.

Being accepted, valued for who you are is probably the most important thing you can have… but most of us want to be valued the way we are, and are unwilling to become someone who can be valued… So partially this article is about that: become someone who can be valued.

I hope you are now really interested.))

I do both.

I am most interested in their habitual way of thinking, responding, decision making, and attitude.

Sometimes they know themselves, but more often than not they don’t know themselves that well… do not see much into the invisible…

If I see a habit that I want for myself, even if I see it clearly, I still have the difficulty of integrating it… it is not enough to see it.

Integration means it becomes part and parcel with me and my structure. But each habit forces me to find a crack, an opening in my structure, or I won’t be able to integrate it.
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Reframing: State change: Changing your emotional state

Frame: state change. Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state, aka attitude.
The myth of “IS”
One of the invisible tools the memes use, the memes that keep us trapped and unable to take control of our lives is to spew “is” on us.

OK, that was a long sentence. let me see if I can reword it. The memes freeze us into a life where we have no power. It is in the wording. The freezing power comes from the wording.

We have spoken about the having to, needing to, wanting to, and should… these are a group of tools the memes use to rob us of our own power, and render us puppets.

The tool that renders us powerless to change is the improper use of “is”.

Whenever you feel you need to change, this meme tool is at work.
Whenever you point a blaming finger at yourself, at the world, or at others, this meme tool is at work.
It is under learned helplessness. It is under resignation, cynicism, and unless you learn to recognize it, you’ll fight it… like Don Quixote was fighting the windmills. No chance to win.

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Reframing: State change: Changing your emotional state

Frame: state change. Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state, aka attitude.
The myth of “IS”
One of the invisible tools the memes use, the memes that keep us trapped and unable to take control of our lives is to spew “is” on us.

OK, that was a long sentence. let me see if I can reword it. The memes freeze us into a life where we have no power. It is in the wording. The freezing power comes from the wording.

We have spoken about the having to, needing to, wanting to, and should… these are a group of tools the memes use to rob us of our own power, and render us puppets.

The tool that renders us powerless to change is the improper use of “is”.

Whenever you feel you need to change, this meme tool is at work.
Whenever you point a blaming finger at yourself, at the world, or at others, this meme tool is at work.
It is under learned helplessness. It is under resignation, cynicism, and unless you learn to recognize it, you’ll fight it… like Don Quixote was fighting the windmills. No chance to win.

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Reframing… She is a person! OMG.

Refraiming, or looking at things in a different context is one of the tools you have available to you when you raise your vibration.

Ultimately, the most accurate description or definition of higher vibration is that the vibration number expresses the height from where you look at events, ideas…

The higher you are the less personal it becomes.
The higher you are the less the desire trap will rob you of being able to see that A is A…
The higher you are the more options you see.
The higher you are the more you can see what bigger thing you can accomplish while you are taking care of things…
And of course the higher you are the more ready you are to look at things through different frames and actually see something different.

Some of these new frames, when you first get to look through them, are dramatic. Upsetting. Revolutionary.

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What is the technology of personal evolution…

I have said, in another article, that what is “normal” for a vehicle for the selfish gene (a human), is to move to and then stay in an ess.

Evolutionary stable strategy. Where life works relatively smoothly.
If you listen to the genes, you’ll live that way, you live in an ess.
Your job, your family, your health, your thinking are all in an ess… You don’t grow, you survive. You get up in the morning because you didn’t die the night before. It is probably boring, and you are probably sick, dumb, and poor. Or maybe not. It pretty much depends on what you start with.

That is how most people live, and it has a pull that is very strong.

You don’t rock the boat. You make do. You may do stupid things, and they likely take you downwards, towards gravity.

Now, it is obvious that this is not the path of creating epigenetic shifts toward living a life worth living. Not for me, not for the spirit, not for the soul. It is the ideal life for the selfish gene.

But Life wants more life, and the ess way of living results in less life.
Now, what do you do to evolve? Given the huge force ess has on you?
Bad news. There is no step by step way, there is no comfortable uphill slope, there is no staircase, no elevator, nothing like that. The way is not smooth.

The way to do it is to challenge the ess. Upset the apple cart. The more upset you cause, the more you open up the way to create a new ess. The old ess has to fall apart… 😦 right?

Evolution happens when one ess falls to give way to the next ess to the next ess.

Evolution is a lot like climbing a rope or a pole: you pull with the arms, push with the legs, and the moment you stop doing that, you need to go back to the bottom to feel safe. ((When I go “up” to download the Days of Power energy, there is no resting until I reach the “rim” where I can sit down. It’s like a new ess… I go through it in a few minutes, and it feels like hell, I am scared, I am burning up, I am tense, but once I am there, I can ease into a new ess. OK… this is how life will be from now on…))
So evolution is not a walk in the park. Not for the body, not for the mind…
A year ago this time I decided that I was going to get fit. I wasn’t… I was weak, out of shape, 40 lbs overweight, and in pain.

One morning I woke up early and saw that maybe I wasn’t going to die soon enough, after all. And if I have to live, I’d rather live healthy than sick. And I knew that it was up to me.

I am convinced that 99% of my health is up tom my lifestyle choices, and my lifestyle, my choices are up to me… Or let me be precise: it is up to me and experimenting. Always moving toward a better outcome.

So I started to challenge myself physically, emotionally, and I started experimenting in earnest.

It was a long and hard year. I threw in the monkey wrench into every area of my life, a few experiments at a time. Eating, sleeping, thinking, housekeeping, shopping, social. What to shop. When to eat. how to make
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Reframing: our tool for creating

You’ve heard of the expression: like a deer caught in the headlights syndrome: frozen, seeing the world one way with no escape route.

Most people live their whole lives in that state: see the world in a fixed way.

To one degree or another we are all are like that.
The more of your life is lived in that state, the more powerless you feel, the less options, the less choices you see.
You can examine any two people with different results in life and you’ll see that they are stuck in one view of the world, but their view is different.

Obviously, having new choices, having new options, having different actions available to you is a good thing if you want to have a life worth living.
People who feel out of control, people who feel that they don’t have a say in what happens to them, are people with depression.

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